Author Jo Huddleston

Sweet Southern Romance

Monday, May 7, 2012

Male/Female Friendships

Monday Musings on This ‘N That

Can male/female friendships exist?

Answering quickly you may say, “Of course.” Looking more closely and putting  yourself in that situation, would your answer be the same? Ladies, would you feel comfortable if your boyfriend/husband had a female for his best friend? And, men would you approve of your girlfriend/wife having a male as her best friend?

Some folks say that it is an impossible situation. They feel that a relationship between male and female must be ultimately and only romantic.

Let’s look at an example. Perhaps a little boy and a little girl lived next door and became friends at an early age. That friendship is never broken but becomes stronger as these two mature. What happens when each of them marries? Are they expected to forsake their lifetime, close friendship with the one who lived next door?

I don’t know whether male or female would be more adamant about the other’s friendship. I can image this would be a prickly concern to be worked out in a marriage or relationship. Each of them would love their dear friend and probably be hurt if their partner demanded the friendship be severed.

Also, what would loving a good friend imply? The Bible uses the work love many times. The one new commandment Jesus gave in the New Testament was “love thy neighbor.” I don’t think He was referring to a romantic love for He wants us to love one another.

What is the difference when a male or female says “I love you” or “I’m in love with you”? Does one denote friendship and the other mean romantic? I think so.

Do you have a best friend that is of the opposite sex? Does it work if you’re married or in a relationship? I’d love to read your comments on these questions. And also how do you define “I love you” and “I’m in love with you?

The winner of last Thursday's drawing for a signed copy of A Wedding Transpires on Mackinac Island by Cara C. Putman is Shanda. I'll email you for your mailing address and get the book out to you. Thanks all for commenting. Watch for more book giveaways.

Till next time … keep on smiling.


  1. My best friend is a guy. I've loved him for more than 25 years, and I've never been closer to him than a brush of a kiss on a birthday. I never speak to him that I don't end the conversation with an "I love you." My husband accepts this relationship because I've had Eric longer than I've had him. It's all about trust.I love Eric, I'm IN LOVE WITH my husband.

    1. Sharon, thanks for sharing on this blog post. So well described and I love your last sentence. Also you say, "It's all about trust".....this applies to all marriages and relationships. Thanks again for reading my blog and love your comment.