Author Jo Huddleston

Sweet Southern Romance

Monday, September 24, 2012

Yes ma'am, No ma'am, Thank you and Please

Monday Musings on This 'N That

The first time I heard the sing-song words, "Yes ma'am, No ma'am, Thank you and Please" I was already married but didn't have children. But the little ditty stayed with me. When starting to raise my children I used part or all of the words to get my children to learn politeness to others. Repeating the words to my children helped to make it fun for them to learn good manners. More than good manners, it's just plain respect.

Every time I hear a child, little or teenager, answer an adult with "Yeah" it's like fingernails on a chalk board. I hear it so much when I rarely watch TV. I hear it when out shopping. I've concluded that parents must not be teaching such manners, or none at all, to their offspring.

I wonder how they respond to their teachers in the classrooms. I wonder how they respond to Sunday school teachers or any minister at church. Or to any adult.

Am I being picky to expect more "Yes ma'am, No ma'am, Thank you and Please"? What are you hearing? Does any of this bother you? I can't discipline others' children, so if the parents don't do so, what happens when the child finishes school? Does he/she respond politely to their superiors at the work place?

Share your thoughts--leave a comment. Let me know if I'm way off base with my thinking.

P.S. I have my Jamie Lee Curtis haircut appointment set for tomorrow. Look for photo in next Monday's blog--if I have the courage to post it.

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Till next time ... keep on smiling.


  1. Well being a young person (I'm 20 years old), I see where both sides are coming from here. I have the utmost respect for my "elders" which includes my Mom, grandparents, aunts, uncles, women that I work with, teachers etc. However, I'm kind of assuming here, but you're from the south right? I live in Vermont and it's borderline offensive to call anyone ma'am up here. So no, you come to New England and you will VERY rarely hear the use of "yes ma'am, no ma'am" because it's just not acceptable to do that up here.

    Therefore, if you came up here, you would probably find every child rude lol. 'Yeah' doesn't tend to be a good response though and like you, it irritates me too. Yes, no, please, and thank you. I think a lot of it is a regional difference.

    And I can't WAIT to see your new haircut! I think by a week's time, you'll love it and definitely want us to see it :D

  2. Oh! I just remembered something else! We are expected to call everyone by they're official name. Yes, Mrs. Soandso. Thank you, Mother. It's a lot more formal that way than just one term for all (i.e. ma'am).

  3. Hannah, thanks so much for your comment. Yes, I'm from the South. It shows, huh? Great observation and discussion. Thanks for coming by and leaving your thoughtful comment.