Thursday, January 17, 2013

Win a Book!


Thursday Thoughts on Reading and Writing



When you leave a comment on THIS post by 6 p.m. CT Sunday, January 20, 2013 you'll be entered in the DRAWING for a copy of the book shown below. If you mention in your comment that you’re a follower (see in the left column “Join This Site” and “Follow by Email”), I’ll add your name a second time in the drawing. You must be eighteen, have a U.S. mailing address, void where prohibited. You can read details about my book giveaways here.      



I’m happy to have Alice Wisler with us today. Her article appears below.

Alice was born in Osaka, Japan in the sixties. Her parents were Presbyterian career missionaries. As a young child, Alice loved to walk down to the local stationer’s store to buy notebooks, pencils, and scented erasers. In her room, she created stories. The desire to be a published famous author has never left her. She’s the author of Rain Song, How Sweet It Is, Hatteras Girl, and A Wedding Invitation (all published by Bethany House) and Still Life in Shadows (River North/Moody).

Her new devotional is Getting Out of Bed in the Morning: Reflections of Comfort in Heartache (Leafwood Publishers).

Alice has four children—Rachel, Daniel, Benjamin, and Elizabeth. Daniel died on 2/2/97 from cancer treatments at the age of four. Since then, Alice founded Daniel’s House Publications in her son’s memory. This organization reaches out to others who have also lost a child to death.

Alice presents online writing courses—Writing the Heartache—and other workshops across the country. She also has a line of remembrance cards and thank you cards. She is a contributing author at Open to Hope where she writes on grief and loss. Her three blogs are Writing the Heartache, Alice's Patchwork Quilt, and Broken Psalms.


Article by Alice Wisler
A weeping willow tree, one flowery journal, two pens (in case one ran out of ink), and a box of Puffs tissues. Those objects stayed close beside me. In my early confusion over the loss of my son, these items never ignored my grief or told me to “get over it.”

When it grew too dark to see underneath the stringy weeping willow, I carried my pen and journal inside a house that seemed too empty, and wrote some more. At night, I woke to grapple with turmoil, with the noises in my head, the flashbacks of the cancer ward, the cries of my son. I wrote the ugly words “why?” and “how come?” before I could sleep again.

I scribbled through myths and clich├ęs. I unleashed resentment and longing. I addressed prayers to God.

And, surprisingly, I discovered. Some of the confusion slid away, some of the guilt abandoned me. There was nothing I could have done to save my four-year-old’s life. Even my love had not been strong enough to destroy that infection that flared inside his tiny body. I was human and really not as in control as I wanted to believe. I would have to live with that.

I began to understand the new me. She was a tower of strength and compassion; she was tender and vulnerable, realistic, with just the right touch of cynicism. She needed protection from too many plastic smiles; she could not go long without a hug or sharing a story about a blue-eyed boy with an infectious laugh.

My written words healed me. And I jumped at the opportunity to tell others. I’d found comfort and clarity. I smiled at my husband and three young children, and at last, I didn’t want to run my van over the cliff; I wanted to smell the peonies and taste the salt from the ocean on my skin.

The beauty about grief-writing is that no one has to read it. You don’t have to worry about a teacher correcting your spelling or grammar. There’s no grade, no pass or fail. No one cares if your letters are sloppy. It’s written by you and for you. And, yes, it works.

Use these tips to help write your heartache for healing, health and hope.
 Find a secluded place to write where you can think clearly without distraction.
 Write, at first, for your eyes only. It doesn’t have to be shared with anyone.
 Write to chart progress for you to read years down the road.
 Write with the feeling, “I will survive this.”
 Write to identify your emotions and feelings.
 Write to help solve some of the new situations you must now face.
 Think of your journal as a friend who never judges and who can never hurt you.
 Write your spiritual struggles.
 Write to rebuild your self-esteem and your self-confidence.



Remember: leave a comment on THIS post by 6 p.m. CT Sunday, January 20, 2013 and you'll be entered in the drawing for a copy of Getting Out of the Bed in the Morning by Alice Wisler. You must be eighteen, have a U.S. mailing address, void where prohibited. Please, please remember to leave your email address so that should you be the winner I can get in touch with you for your mailing address. I’ll announce the winner in Monday’s blog.

Till next time ... keep on smiling.

31 comments:

  1. Alice, that was a very lovely and touching story...sadens me to know death comes at any age, and for many reasons..We just all have to remember all the good memories..Really enjoyed your story..Thank You God Bless You! Stay Strong..
    Kathy
    bearangel0@yahoo.com

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  2. Thank you for sharing your heart, Alice. And what wonderful advice. I know the feeling about the van and railing guard...felt that way when my husband died. And as bad as that was, I don't think it compares to losing a child. So glad you and God worked through it and you came out the other side strong and compassionate. And that you're sharing your journey now.
    pat at ptbradley dot com And I'm a regular follower.

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    1. Pat, thank you for reading Alice's post. I appreciate you being a follower of my blog.

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  3. Thank you, Jo, for having me as a guest on your blog today! Thank you, Kathy and Pat, for reading!

    All the best to each of you!

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  4. I have this book and love it. Great post today as always. Please don't enter me in the drawing since I have a copy. Blessings, Susan Fryman

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  5. Wow an awesome post. Keeping a journal helped me when I lost my Mom, close family member and then my dad. I gives you a clam feeling after I had wrote. Thank you for sharing.

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  6. I would love to win a copy of your book i still grive over the loss of my son and parents
    Shirley Blanchard

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    1. Shirley, Alice's book would surely be a blessing to you. Thanks for reading my blog and leaving a comment.

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  7. Alice's book is very appealing to me at this moment in time. Loss of loved ones is a feeling unknown to those who haven't lost and your words are a prelude to times coming for any of us. Thank you for this giveaway and the chance to win such a helpful read.

    In Christian Joy,
    Barb Shelton
    barbjan10 at tx dot rr dot com

    I'm a follower of this blog.

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    1. Barb, thanks for sharing your feelings with us. I'm glad you came by and left your comment.

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  8. I'd love to win this book! I am a follower also GFC: MeganP
    Thanks & God bless!
    makeighleekyleigh at yahoo.com

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  9. Alice, I'm so sorry Daniel died. I've never lost a child. There was the horrible time that my eldest daughter lost her fiance in a car accident. After that was a very bleak time, as I tried to be supportive to her. Alice, the tips you wrote sound very helpful. I would be pleased to win a copy of Getting Out of the Bed in the Morning.
    may_dayzee(at)yahoo(dot)com
    I am a follower.

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  10. thanks for the chance to read this inspirational boo

    karenk
    kmkuka at yahoo dot com

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  11. Thanks Alice for sharing your story of the death of Daniel with us. While I haven't lost a child, I lost a husband to brain cancer 10 years ago. I would love to win a copy of Getting Out of Bed in the Morning.

    I follow by GFC and I also follow through email.
    Blessings!
    Judy
    sweetpea.judy(at)yahoo(dot)com

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    1. Judy, thanks for sharing about your loss with us. I appreciate your following my blog and coming by to leave comments.

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  12. I lost a son to cancer in 1996 - very devestating. Love to read this.
    pbclark(at)netins(dot)net

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  13. The book, "Getting out of bed in the morning" by Alice J. Wisler would be a welcome addition to my personal library. I would also love to give 2 copies to my sisters.
    We lost our Mom to Alzheimer's last month.
    Thank You!
    Janet E.
    von1janet(at)gmail(dot)com

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    1. Janet, thanks for sharing your loss with us. I'm glad you came by the read my blog and leave your comment.

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  14. Thank you for this opportunity. What a great book and such a comfort to others. Looking forward to reading it.

    clSwalwell@gmail.com

    In Him,

    Cheri :)

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    1. Cheri, you're welcome. Thanks for coming by and read Alice's article and leaving a comment. I appreciate your loyalty to reading my blog.

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  15. would love to win the book!!! and God bless you Jo love your blog!!! and of course your books!!!
    praynATliveDOTcom

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  16. Thank you to all for your comments!

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