Thursday, June 14, 2018

Jennifer Slattery, Contemporary Novel


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DANCING IN THE RAIN
by Jennifer Slattery


Jennifer Slattery
Jennifer Slattery is a writer and international speaker who’s addressed women’s groups, church groups, Bible studies, and other writers across the nation. She’s the author of six contemporary novels and maintains a devotional blog, "Jennifer Slattery Lives Out Loud." She has a passion for helping women discover, embrace, and live out who they are in Christ. As the founder of Wholly Loved Ministries, she and her team partner with churches to facilitate events designed to help women rest in their true worth and live with maximum impact. When not writing, reading, or editing, Jennifer loves going on mall dates with her adult daughter and coffee dates with her hilariously fun husband. Connect with her on Facebook or Instagram.


Please enjoy the following article by Jennifer Slattery:

Does your child know you’re on her side? That every time you ground her or take away her iPad, you have her best in mind? That no matter what, you are always for her? Or has she begun to see you as the enemy?

When our daughter was young, I felt like I lived in constant correction mode, and often our home felt more like a battleground than the sanctuary I so wanted to create. But even in the hard times, my daughter knew I was on her team. She understood I tried to remain focused on her long-term good. 

This team-mentality parenting, the kind that says, “I’m for you,” didn’t just happen. It was the result of intentional and consistent communication, a continual evaluation of my parenting, an ever-present awareness of my failings, and a commitment to let God use even my biggest blunders for our daughter’s benefit.

I communicated the why behind my parenting decisions.

Some may argue this point, saying it’s important our children learn to obey for obedient’s sake. While this is true, even that has a why. Or should I say, in obeying, your child has a why. Perhaps it’s to please you or avoid punishment. Or maybe it’s because they know obeying you honors God. Regardless, if we don’t connect the dots for them, they’ll come up with their own reasons, and I don’t know about you, but I don’t trust a five, six, ten, or twelve-year old’s reasoning skills.

More than that, they won’t understand our heart behind our actions. They certainly won’t think long-term about how that behavior, action, or habit can affect their adulthood. Not unless we tell them. 

I wanted to make sure my daughter knew, because my goal wasn’t behavior modification, which is often short-lived, but rather, heart change.

Here’s what it looked like:

When we were in a conflict and she lost her temper, I’d set a clear boundary: “That behavior is unacceptable. Please go to your room until we can discuss this calmly.” Then, once she had time to calm down, I’d discuss with her how that behavior might look in a marriage, at work, or with her friends. I helped her see how her behavior, if left unchecked, would ultimately hurt her. Then I always ended our conversation with a statement similar to, “I want more for you. I want you to grow up to be a well-adapted, successful adult.”

And every. Single. Time. Her anger diffused. Because she knew I was for her, and that turned me from her enemy to her greatest ally. Though she often remained frustrated with the consequences, her wisdom grew and our relationship remained intact.

I continually evaluated my parenting. 

This, of course, implies that my parenting choices truly were for her benefit, not my comfort or preference. When I viewed our home life through that lens, I discovered many battles I felt tempted to fight weren’t important. Such as what she wore on Sunday morning. 

I loved dressing her up, and toting a well-attired child into Sunday school with her hair done made me feel like a better mom. Or at least, made me think I looked like a better mom … even if it took an insane amount of tears, cajoling, foot-stomping, and screaming to create that image. What, or perhaps who, would it hurt if I allowed her to pick out her clothes? Would wearing a pink and green polka dot skirt with her yellow rubber boots and red Elmo shirt derail her life?

I decided no, and as a result, I had the most originally dressed preschooler in church. Our Sunday mornings were also relatively stress-free.

I recognized my failings and weaknesses and apologized for them.

Most of us operate on a heap of baggage that influences our perceptions and behavior. Add in our normal selfishness, impatience, and sinfulness, and we can pretty much guarantee making major mistakes.

I did. A LOT. The issue is not will we fail our children but rather how will we respond once we do?

I determined to respond with humility. I refused to sugar coat my sin, justify my behavior, or make excuses. Instead, I called it what it was, apologized, and told her God was actively working on changing that part of me. In so doing, I showed her what it looked like to live in grace.

Let’s talk about this! Does your child tend to see you as his enemy or greatest ally? How have you created a team-mentality in your home? What are some things you can do, today, to further that? Share your thoughts, ideas, and experiences with us in the comments below, because we can all learn from each other!

Welcome, Jennifer. Please tell us a little about Dancing in the Rain.
On the verge of college graduation, Loni Parker seeks employment as a music teacher, but no one will hire her since she’s blind. Or so she thinks. To take her mind off her troubles, her roommate invites her to spring retreat at Camp Hope in the gorgeous North Carolina mountains. 

Unbeknownst to Loni, Michael Ackerman, the director, is an ex-con responsible for the accident that caused her blindness. When Loni warms up to camp and wants to return as a summer counselor, Michael opposes the idea, which only makes Loni want to prove herself all the more. Though she doesn’t expect to fall for the guy. Still, her need for independence and dream of teaching win out, taking her far away from her beloved Camp Hope . . . and a certain director.

Camp director Michael Ackerman recognizes Lonie instantly and wants to avoid her at all costs. Yet, despite the guilt pushing him from her, a growing attraction draws him to the determined woman. She sees more with her heart than the average person does with his eyes. But her presence also dredges up a long-buried anger toward his alcoholic father that he’d just as soon keep hidden. When circumstances spin out of control, Michael is forced to face a past that may destroy his present.

Where can readers purchase Dancing in the Rain?
Amazon

Jennifer, thanks for visiting with my readers and me. Jennifer is offering an eBook copy of Dancing in the Rain to TWO commenters to this blog post.

Commenters, to enter the book drawing please leave your comment on this post through June 19, 2018, and remember to leave your email address so I can contact you if you’re the winner.


The winner of last Thursday’s blog post for a copy of Alana Candler, Marked for Murder  by  Joanie Bruce is Kim. I’ll email you. Thanks all for commenting. Watch for more book giveaways.

Till next time … keep on smiling. 


My latest book is out – Her Reason to Smile, a novella. Here is the cover, and you can read more about the book and the first chapter here.


18 comments:

  1. Would love the chance to read the book. I am a follower. Jhdwayne(at)peoplepc(dot)com

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  2. Hi Jennifer and Jo. I enjoyed reading about this new book and the struggle most parents face in parenting. My husband and I raised our daughter in a Christian home and some thought we were too strict. I believe that a child needs to have a firm foundation laid so that they will have something to build on as an adult.
    Thanks for your giveaway.
    I follow you Jo.
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  3. My daughter knows I am her biggest ally! I'm a follower! Shelia sheliarha64(at)yahoo(dot)com

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  4. I love books about people who have overcome disabilities.
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  5. Sounds like a good book. Thanks for the giveaway.
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  6. Signed up for your newsletter and I think that this is a good book to read. Sounds like Michael has alot of pain to sort through. Vivian Furbay jtandviv(at)q(dot)com

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  7. Gosh, I needed to read this today. My kids know they're loved, but I'm sure I could do a better job of helping them connect the dots between behavior and consequences.
    Dianna (dedezoomsalot @ yahoo . com)

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  8. Thanks, Jo, for the opportunity to enter your giveaway. Would love to win a print copy of any of your books, especially since I haven't read any yet:) God bless. Lual Krautter My email is: krautter12ATbresnanDOTnet

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  9. I love Jennifer's books! I'm a follower.
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